Teach your kid how to makes friendships!

The process of making friendship and managing this friendship is vital. And there are some shills that you should keen on teaching them to your kid.

Kids usually can be picky about other kids who they play and mix with. But we should realize that Popularity should not be confused with sociability. In fact, A number of studies in recent decades have shown that appearance, personality type and ability impact on a child's popularity at school. Good-looking, easygoing, talented kids usually win peer popularity polls, but that doesn't guarantee they will have friends.

Those kids who manage and develop strong friendships have a definite set of skills that help make them easy to like, easy to relate to and easy to play with. The following skills have been identified as important for helping kids make and maintain friendships:

•    Ability to share what they have and space.
•    Getting confidence and keeping others’ secrets.
•    Usually offering help to the others who need it.
•    Tolerance and accepting others' mistakes.
•    Have the ability to be positive and enthusiastic.
•    Have the ability for Winning and losing well.
•    Listening to others.
•    Starting and maintaining a conversation with others.
•    Ignoring someone who is annoying them.
•    Cooperating with others.
•    Giving and receiving compliments.

We have to realize that friendship skills are generally developmental. That is, kids grow into these skills given exposure to different situations, and also with adult help. In past generations, "exposure to different situations" meant opportunities to play with each other, with siblings and with older and younger friends. Children were reminded by parents about how they should act around others. They were also taught these skills from a very young age.

Today's children grow up with fewer siblings, fewer opportunities for unstructured play, and less freedom to explore friendships than children of even a decade ago. A parenting style that promotes a high sense of individual entitlement rather than the notion of fitting in appears to be popular at the moment. These factors can lead to delayed or arrested development in these essential friendship skills, resulting in very unhappy, self-centered children.

You as parents have to watch your children and see if your child needs help with making friendship skills.

 Here are some ideas if you think your child experiences developmental delay in any of these essential skills or just needs some help to acquire them:

1.    Encourage your kids to play and work with each other: Give kids the freedom to be kids is part of the message here but parents have to construct situations where kids have to get on with each other. For some kids, "Go outside and play" is a good place to start!

2.    Share your kids with their playing: Interact with your kids through games and other means so you can help kids learn directly from you how to get on with others.

3.    Talk to them about these skills: If you notice your kids need to develop some of these skills, talk about them, point out when they show them and give them some implementation ideas.

4.    Kids are quite egocentric and need to develop a sense of "other" so they can successfully negotiate the many social situations that they find themselves in. As parents, we often focus on the development of children's academic skills and can quite easily neglect the development of these vitally important social skills, which contribute so much to a child's happiness and wellbeing.

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